If you’re anything like me, you get great pleasure out of doing things for people. Whether it’s taking care of people, being there for them, or just overall seeing a smile on their face. With that being said, you sometimes overbook yourself because you like to meet the needs of others. You don’t have a problem saying no, but it’s not frequently used in your vocabulary; all of a sudden you have no time to do anything because you are officially swamped with tasks for others.
This is my constant struggle! I never have enough time even to sleep because I just have so much on my plate for other people. And granted I don’t mind doing anything for others. I realize I can’t always give my best qualities because I haven’t had any time to recuperate myself. And that brings me to my point: make time for yourself! As simple as it is, I know a good chunk of us don’t do it.
At the beginning of this year I went to Zimbabwe to visit my family. When I say Africa is beautiful (you all need to go), I am so serious! You have no idea what you’re missing out on. Just being in that environment is breath taking. Being there for two weeks and not having reliable internet gave me a lot of time to focus on myself and reevaluate some things. That was the longest I’ve slept in years. I couldn’t tell you before that trip when was the last time I got eight hours of sleep on at least two days in a row! Honestly it never happens and I’m grateful when I can achieve six hours. Time had slowed down for me and I remembered how to take care of myself. Not that I don’t already take care of myself, but being in America and working a job that soley caters to the needs of others, I lost view of how to take care of myself and make sure that I’m OK.
On this hunt to make to time for myself, again, I had a 21 hour flight to conjure up a better plan to make sure that I am not burnt out and still able to meet the needs of others.
I first started off with going to bed early.I never realized that even though I can function off of six hours, my overall health was better when I got 10. My weight went down. I dont survive off coffee and I was doing my job even better. This is very simple but often overlooked and ignore the benefits.
The next thing I did was putting my clients on a tighter schedule. I am a hairstylist. I love doing hair, but it’s very easy to get caught up and burned out in that profession. With that being said, I put everyone on a schedule and limit my availability. This way I’m not standing for 12hrs!! I don’t believe you need to be in the salon all day! Please come and go because thats the mentality I have when it comes to slaying your hair.
The next thing I did was confidently tell people NO I cannot do that and gave no explanation. I never want people to feel like I don’t want to help them and I feel so guilty that when I can’t do it, that I have to I over explain myself. At the end of the day I need to make sure that I’m OK to meet their needs so if I can’t do it, I just have to comfortably say…NO.
Then I started treating myself. I get messages and facials, some weekend I just sleep or stay in bed and watch my favorite movies. I really started doing things that made me feel good, look better and overall revamped.
Don’t feel like when you make time for yourself you’re being selfish because no one’s going to take care of you the way you take care of yourself. People will have your best interest at heart, but only you can make you important. Put yourself first from time to time. Take one day out of the week for it to be all about you and you’ll see a difference it makes when you take that time to focus on yourself and take care of yourself and then take care of the needs of others.
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