It’s almost the weekend, so I’m super pumped! But let’s talk about the elephant in the room of every millennial… ADULTING. *cue dramatic music* Who knew being an adult could be so challenging? I surely didn’t. I mean yeah, I knew it wasn’t going to be a cakewalk, but I swear I go through about 100 emotions a day. I know many of you can relate. It’s like you go from being swaddled in a warm, comfortable blanket to being thrown into a pack of wolves. It’s just TEW much at times.
I think my major issues with Adulting are time management and finances. I don’t necessarily struggle with procrastination or anything like that, but most times I have so much on my plate that my head feels like it’s spinning around in circles. I often find myself choosing between two things I really need or want to do. On a normal day I’m choosing between a nap or a workout; and on an extremely busy day I’m out of the house for 12 plus hours. Sometimes I wish I could push a pause button on life, but of course that’s not an option.
Finances, oh finances YOU are the main culprit of adult stress. Money is needed for basically everything you could even think of. Want to move out? You need money. Want to start a business? You need money. Want to take a girls trip? YOU NEED MONEY! Can we catch a break? Geez. It’s quite frustrating especially when you begin to think about the future. I have a desire to get married and have kids like many millennials, but I’d rather not bring children in the world until I’m prepared financially. I’m already thinking about how I’m going to send them to college and I don’t even have a potential husband. It’s madness!
Your twenties present so many shifts and changes. Most people graduate from college and the next day they’re left to figure out everything on their own. Once you kind of have adulting down, curveballs start to come your way. I’m just ducking and dodging as I go. Thank God I have amazing parents who are there to help if I really need it. But once you leave the nest, it’s so hard to put pride aside and ask for help. I moved out, so I should figure it out without them now. Right? Eh. Not necessarily. But that’s easier said than done.
Along with the external factors of adulting, there’s an internal struggle that also happens. You’re trying to decipher exactly who you are as a woman. Tons of questions swarm your mind daily like…What kind of woman do I want to be? What will/won’t I accept from people? Do I want to get married and have children? Finding yourself and your true identity can be tricky especially if you have distractions in your life. I had to get rid of mine to start working on the inside. I’ll elaborate in another post.
Adulting can be tough, but here’s how I’m managing to make it. Maybe this could help you too.
- Live in the moment. The power of NOW is truly a force to be reckoned with. You don’t know what tomorrow holds or if you’ll even be alive tomorrow, so live in the moment and enjoy the time you have here on earth.
- Realize that you don’t have to have it all together. A lot of times I’m a wreck and accepting that has made adulting much easier. You won’t always have it together and you won’t always have the answers, but that’s OK. Humanize yourself.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. Now this is the toughest thing you could probably do because social media has stolen the joy of uniqueness. Everyone wants to be the same and have the same journey. Enjoy YOUR journey. All the bumps in the road, the tears, the pain will all be worth it.
- Make time for yourself (recoup). It’s important that you’re not on go-mode 24-7. I usually like to take a day to just pamper myself by getting some rest, curling up with a good book, taking a bubble bath, or treating myself to something special.
- Plan. Even though our plans often fail, it’s important to write down your goals and plans for the future. If you want to purchase a home or a car, plan out how you will save your money to make those purchases. I have personally made a plan that by age 30, I won’t be working a 9 to 5 job. I will be working for myself full-time.
You got this!! Come through adult!