How do you guys deal with being betrayed/ disappointed by someone close to you? I was recently struggling with this question when I was deceived by someone who I trusted.
It took me a while to understand how I felt about it, or better yet, but it into words. Now, Im not gonna lie- I was immediately enraged and wanted to express anger mixed with a side of petty. -Like how dare someone betray me after I am such a loyal friend!
However, I know that would be more of a “wordly” way of responding and it is always my goal to be more Godly in my approach toward anger. But- let’s be honest; I’m human and I’m pissed.
Because I didn’t know how to react, I did nothing initially. I felt mixed with emotions between “getting back at them” and knowing that I’m really not that kind of person. Thinking back, I am thankful for not reacting in the moment. I let that person know I was disappointed and left it at that.
It did bother me not feeling like I expressed myself fully. I wanted to make my point stand strong. I wanted them to feel the wrath that I felt. But, letting someone get me out of my character is a betrayal to myself.
Later I found this text on IG reading:
“To be kind is more important than to be right. Many times what people need is not a brilliant mind that speaks, but a soul that listens.”
This definitely sat well in my heart. Now it did take me a while to get over my feelings towards the situation, but I never want anyone to get me out of my character. It is easy to let the world tell how to react in your own storm, but it is really essential to remain calm.
Reacting never changes your circumstances, only responding does. Just a friendly reminder to myself that I can only effect myself and my own decisions.
Ms. Aja Gibbs