Stay Calm in Your Storm

 

How do you guys deal with being betrayed/ disappointed by someone close to you? I was recently struggling with this question when I was deceived by someone who I trusted.

It took me a while to understand how I felt about it, or better yet, but it into words. Now, Im not gonna lie- I was immediately enraged and wanted to express anger mixed with a side of petty. -Like how dare someone betray me after I am such a loyal friend!

However, I know that would be more of a “wordly” way of responding and it is always my goal to be more Godly in my approach toward anger. But- let’s be honest; I’m human and I’m pissed.

Because I didn’t know how to react, I did nothing initially. I felt mixed with emotions between “getting back at them” and knowing that I’m really not that kind of person. Thinking back, I am thankful for not reacting in the moment. I let that person know I was disappointed and left it at that.

It did bother me not feeling like I expressed myself fully. I wanted to make my point stand strong. I wanted them to feel the wrath that I felt. But, letting someone get me out of my character is a betrayal to myself.

Later I found this text on IG reading:

“To be kind is more important than to be right. Many times what people need is not a brilliant mind that speaks, but a soul that listens.”

This definitely sat well in my heart. Now it did take me a while to get over my feelings towards the situation, but I never want anyone to get me out of my character. It is easy to let the world tell how to react in your own storm, but it is really essential to remain calm.

Reacting never changes your circumstances, only responding does. Just a friendly reminder to myself that I can only effect myself and my own decisions.

 

Stay humbled,

Ms. Aja Gibbs

Stay Focused.

I feel like my word this year has been focus. God has promised me a lot of achievements this year, however the condition has always been to focus. Therefore, I have re-evaluated my priorities in many different ways to really figure how to be less distracted. I started with deleting social media which really free’d up a lot of free time, believe it or not. I was able to focus on my class assignments, it allowed for more direct communication with close ones, and I overall had a clear head and better grasp on priorities. I’ve been able to also focus on my career and savings goals which required its own level of planning.

However, we do live in a world where temptation and distractions are all around us. It is easy for us to see where other people are at and think we are to be in the same spot; Or we can easily be discouraged when change does not happen at our scheduled pace. But I believe that in the time that I started to feel uncomfortable and anxious about the promise God had gave me, it became the most important time that I remain concentrated.

The time where you feel you are gonna break; Or maybe you feel your work is not gonna be worth it in the end, is the best time to push through! At that moment, when you choose to apply your faith, the magic actually goes into effect.

I love using the analogy of a hermit crab changing shells. As the crab goes through life and grows, it must change through a few different shells depending on its size. Now keep in mind that the shell is a hard exterior to protect the crabs soft interior, as well as protect its meat from predators. So, as the crab grows, its interior begins to get squished and tight inside of the hard shell. As the crab is now feeling uncomfortable, it finds a new shell and goes into hiding under a rock or something to transition from the old shell to the new shell.

However, it is important to note that without the crab feeling uncomfortable in the small shell, it would not know that it is time to change to a new shell. Therefore, keep in mind that being uncomfortable and anxious is a part of change. However, do not let this stop you from reaching your next level. It must also be noted that the crab must go into hiding to create this change. I am not saying that you have to cut yourself off from society, however I do believe it is essential to remove yourself from your current “ways” to transition into a new phase.

As I am patiently going into my next season, I encourage you, too, to be patient and have faith in your victory. No one who gave up is able to tell their story of success.

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With love,

Ms. Aja Gibbs

Ooo la lashes

Sometimes it’s the little things that make your day that much better. I woke up to lash extensions this morning; and let me tell you that it is one less thing to stress about while getting dressed.

 Worse case senario, if you had no time to put on make up, you at least have lashes and can throw on some lipgloss! You really can’t argue with that. Yes, mascara does a great job with enhancing your natural eyelashes; but I’m a girly girl and the more drama the better! 

So what is really the big difference between fake lashes and mascara? I heard someone before say that lash extensions are mascara’s older sister- lol. Talk about glow up! While mascara can only change the appearance of your eyes, extensions change the appearance of your whole face. Lash extensions also avoid that smudged look like mascara. They also give a more even, softer, longer, eyelash look. 


Lash extensions are typically applied by using lash glue onto your natural lashes. This can last for 2-4 weeks depending on the quality. Now, depending on your passion for eyelash extensions, there are two main places that I would recommend to get them done. 

1. Your local nail salon. This ranges from $20-35. 

2. A spa or lash specialist. Prices can vary but range from $60-$250. (This drastic difference ranges because of the quality of hair & professionalism). 


As fair warning, lash extensions can tear your real lashes out if they are not taken out properly. (They will grow back) But, if you have never tried lash extensions before, you can always apply strip lashes for the day and fall in love the falsies look yourself. Either way, be prepared to stop the show. 

Love always, 

Ms. Aja G. 

Are your nails poppin’?!

I am one of those girls who enjoys to get their nails done. I feel that my hands look better with polish. Some girls, on the other hand, look great with a more natural look. I am not one of those girls. I am, however, obsessed with gel polish.

Gel polish is basically regular polish but the 4.0 version. It is better than your standard nail polish because:

  • It dries instantly.
  • Last up to 3 weeks.

These points are the main reason why I use to not like to get my nails done. With regular polish, I would spend so much time waiting on my nails to dry; don’t get me started on accidently bumping your nails while they are trying to dry. Plus, after all that caution, my nails would have the nerve to start chipping in less than a week. That is a complete waist of my time and money.

So, when I started to get gel nails, it just made sense. So what is the process of getting gel nails?

  • First you get a normal manicure.
  • You wash your hands.
  • Then, a special primer or base is applied.
  • The first layer of UV nail gel is then applied. After that you place your fingers under the UV light.
  • You then repeat this process with a second layer and special top coat.
  • Your polish is instantly dried.

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I enjoy getting gel nails as it is an optimal choice for me. I’m not wasting my money getting regular polish for only 4 days; And it’s not as dramatic as getting a full on acrylic set. Gel nails are a simple way to dress up your regular nails – with long last results. My favorite design  options are the mood changing colors and the chrome designs.

There is, however, a down side of getting gel nails.

  • There have been reports that gel nails can lead to cancer. The UV light from lamps used to set the gel manicures have the same kind of damaging effects as a sunbed.
  • The treatment can cause the nail to thin as you need to buff the polish off when you take the polish off.
  • It’s going to be a lot tougher to remove the gel. You will need to soak your nails in pure acetone, which is very drying to the fingers or file them off.
  • It can potentially lead to infections.
  • Some specialists claim that it takes the nails about 6 weeks to recover from a gel treatment.

With all of that being said, I still do over all enjoy gel nail polish. I do recommend giving your nails a break every now and then.

Give me some feedback. Do you use gel polish? Love or hate?

 

Stay poppin’,

Ms. Aja Gibbs

Oral Health – Oil Pulling

Let’s talk about oral health.

Did you know that even a clean mouth may have between 1,000 and 100,000 bacteria on each tooth, and those that do not have a clean mouth may have between 100 million and a billion bacteria on each tooth? (Emery, 2014)

-That is not something that I want to think about in my mouth.

I know we all have a schedule with how we take care of our teeth, but what if I told you I could take it to the next level? I did took my regimen to the next level. And I am so excited to tell you guys about the new addition to my morning routine- Oil Pulling! I have been using this method called oil pulling before I brush my teeth for literally 6 days now, and I am already amazed at the results.

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What is oil pulling?

It is basically putting about a tablespoon of oil into your mouth and swishing it around your mouth, trying to push, pull and move it throughout your teeth. After you dispose the oil, you proceed to brush your teeth. Oil Pulling is considered a therapy and has been used for centuries in India and southern Asia as a holistic Ayurvedic technique.

According to the American Dental Association, Oil pulling is a natural way to “enhance oral health, whiten teeth, and improve overall health and well-being”. I have heard of people using oil to assist with their cleaning, but it wasn’t until I actually tried it, that I knew I had the share this with others. So far, I have noticed:

  1. My teeth are whiter. (Yes, I know I said I only used it for 6 days so far, but by day 2 and 3, I knew my teeth had gotten whiter.)
  2. My mouth stays cleaner throughout the day. (Its like the food just slide off my mouth!! )
  3. My wisdom teeth don’t feel sore anymore as they are growing in.

 

When you think about it, this process makes since. Some of my common uses of oil are to make it easier to take off makeup or extension eye lashes. This works because the oil breaks down the product on your face to make it remove easier. The same thing is happening on your teeth. As the oil hits your teeth and gums, “microbes are picked up as though they are being drawn to a powerful magnet. Bacteria hiding under crevices in the gums and in pores and tubules within the teeth are sucked out of their hiding places and held firmly in the solution.” (Emery, 2014)

“Oil gargling” is also used to purify the entire system; as it holds that each section of the tongue is connected to different organs such as to the kidneys, lungs, liver, heart, small intestines, stomach, colon, and spine. (Singh, 2011)

Now, keep in mind that oil pulling is not a substitute from your normal cleaning methods but should only be used as an addition. Common results from those who oil pull are:

  • whiten teeth
  • alleviate halitosis
  • reduce gingivitis
  • prevent cavities
  • reduce tooth sensitivity
  • reduces bad breath

In conclusion, oil pulling is a more natural way to clean your mouth rather than using a mouthwash with so many chemical. Plus, it has way more health related benefits. Oil pulling is definitely worth a try!

Stay Clean,

Ms. Aja Gibbs

 

 

 

 

Emery, DMD By Jessica T. “How Dental Professionals Can Respond to ‘oil Pulling’ Patients.” – DentistryIQ. N.p., 21 Mar. 2014. Web. 09 Sept. 2016.

Singh, Abhinav, and Bharathi Purohit. “Tooth Brushing, Oil Pulling and Tissue Regeneration: A Review of Holistic Approaches to Oral Health.” Journal of Ayurveda and Integrative Medicine. Medknow Publications Pvt Ltd, 2 Apr. 2011. Web. 09 Sept. 2016.

“The Practice of Oil Pulling.” The Practice of Oil Pulling. American Dental Association, 14 May 2014. Web. 09 Sept. 2016.